"Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer."1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?It really depends. Sometimes I feel old and crochety. Sometimes I'm amazed I'm allowed to drink and vote. I'd say I still think of myself as being a young 20-something, despite being an old 20-something.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?Failing. I know common wisdom says otherwise. Common wisdom is wrong. (For me, on this.)
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?Because we came out of cultures that said that denying yourself pleasure was pretty much the only moral thing you could do. Also because the things we don't do usually cost more than just time. They cost money or other resources, or they cost the reciprocation of others. And sometimes those things just aren't available to us.
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?Definitely. I think this list of questions is trying to guilt me, but I am full of bubbly, so it can fuck itself. :D
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?Tyranny.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?Sex work. (Sex makes me happy. If I'm getting money for it, it's sex work. QED.)
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?I do believe in massage therapy, I do believe in massage therapy, I do I do I do!
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?I probably wouldn't.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?As much as I could, less than I'd like. *shrug* Some things you just don't have control over.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?Both, really. I want the right thing done right the first time. Anything else leads to frustration, aggravation, and waste.
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?Defend her? Honestly, I'd probably get very upset with them and either leave or argue.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?Find a good doctor that you trust.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?You know, I'm really not sure. It would probably depend on the context.
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?No.
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?Relationships, especially of the romantic variety. (Maybe not differently than my friends, but than a lot of other people.)
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?Because people are different? This is kind of a dumb question, IMHO.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?Travel the world, and money.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?A lot of things. I let go of things very poorly, even when I know they're toxic to me.
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?Spain, probably. Better weather, at least somewhat liberal, in Europe. Other possible choices would include many other European countries.
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?No, actually, I don't do that.
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?Worried genius.
22. Why are you, you?Upbringing?
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I hope I've kept the no parts mostly internal/hidden.
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?Losing touch with the nearby friend. Presumably you're still in touch with the friend who has moved, you just can't see them that often; with the prevalence of e-mail and FB, that's easy... but friendships that dwindle because they get lost in the rush of other things suck.
25. What are you most grateful for?My friends and family, probably.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?Having seen Alzheimer's in action, the latter is just depressing. I'd hope that my friends would stick around if I suddenly developed amnesia, so if I have to pick, that one.
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?No.
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?Not yet.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?Let's see, five years ago was 2007, and actually there were several upsets that year. As for "does it matter", well, yes, those upsets paved the way for where I am today, same as everything.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?Christmas at Nonna's, and because Christmas is always special at Nonna's.
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?My cruise time.
32. If not now, then when?When it's economically and emotionally feasible.
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?Time and effort.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?Yes.
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?Because most of them don't, they support love for specific subsections of people, namely their people. Also because people like to prove their superiority.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?Not for every decision/choice.
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?Probably not.
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?Hard to say as I'm not working right now. I'd say probably more work I actually enjoy.
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?At least.
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?Probably the last time I submitted a story, but even that I didn't "strongly believe in". I don't strongly believe a lot of things any more, to be honest.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?I'd get Simon, Jen, Patrick and I together one more time.
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?Yes.
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?If I knew, I'd be truly living.
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?When the rewards outweigh the risks. :P
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?Because they tend to hurt in some fashion, and humans like to avoid pain.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?I'd be more open about my relationships with my family.
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?Well, now, but before that was when my mother asked me why I was huffing about (I was sighing in frustration).
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?Patrick, my friends, and yes.
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?I might not remember exact details, but I will remember that it was New Year's and I played board games with Pete and Patrick, bought supplies for beginning my own massage therapy service, and signed my contract with the Boyle House.
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?Mostly from column A, a little from column B.
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