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"You know how men talk about PMS as this miserable, barely survivable time when you have to watch what you say, be careful not to make too much noise, swallow your real thoughts, make constant concessions to avoid conflict, and accept sudden outbursts of anger as commonplace? (aka things I unconsciously do around many men I know and love)

The masculine dread of PMS is basically “there are five days a month when the burden of emotional labor is reversed, and that brief (and incomplete) inversion is my personal eldritch horror, such that men discuss it with other men in hushed tones.”

-a fiendish thingy" on "Where's My Cut?" On Unpaid Emotional Labor (way the fuck down)

*just... marvels at that one for a minute*

Current Mood: cynical
Current Location: Canada, Brampton
Current Music: David Bowie & Queen - Under Pressure

So while I know most of you read my FB at this point, I'm going to put this here, also (think of it as extra, extra insurance on doing them:)

So elsewhere I wrote what my goals for this year are, and I figured, well, let's post them to FB as well.
1. Be gentler with myself overall. (I have a tendency to be a bit of a perfectionist, and not in a good way [is there a good way?]. So this one is the most important one.)
2. Write at least three sentences a day.
3. Read at least one book a month.
4. Meditate at least five minutes every morning.
5. Find something fun that feels more like 'play' than 'exercise'.

No, they aren't lofty aspirations (and I know a bunch of people are going *one book a month???* and dying a little on the inside), but... if I do better than this then that's good. If I do only this, I can be satisfied. And if I don't manage all of these, then that's okay too. Trying to make that my mindset for 2016.

2015 was an... interesting year. I did a number of things, even though it felt for much of it like I was wading through the molasses of my low energy and a fuckton of self-loathing. (See also Item #1.) Therapy has been going... well? I think? Like at least I'm able to identify the fact that I have a lot of self-loathing, haha? >.> (And also nervous laughter when I'm actually upset about something/self-conscious? ;))

I dunno. It's really hard to tell as it goes if progress is being made, but I think things are going well. So I'm going to trust that it is, in fact, doing what it says on the tin, even if at this point I think I've been going about three times as long as what it's "supposed" to run. (CBT and IPT, the two therapies my therapist is using, are both intended to be fairly short-term, and we're now at 16 months, rather than weeks.) I dunno if that's just me, or what. (I do know I have been fairly resistant to the idea of being okay with small victories.)

But, let's see how 2016 plays out. (Yosh'!)

Current Mood: contemplative
Current Location: Canada, Brampton
Current Music: Empty - Metric

I didn't think conversations like that actually happened.

Back story: the guy that refills/replaces (?) our fire extinguishers came to the office to do, well, just that. Darrell and Claudio are not in the office, so he gets talking to me. He's a very friendly guy, forties, speaks quickly (almost too quickly to keep up with).

So he asked if I was working here part-time or full-time, what school I was going to, and so on. So I told him about going to Humber, and he starts into this diatribe about university professors being wankers and stuff like that. Whatever, some of 'em are (I heard the same story from him as I did from my parents about York and UofT professors, so I can only assume it is true...). He's kind of rambling, but he's so enamoured with his own voice that I can literally just smile and nod.

Then he starts going on about television and how he hates watching "CBS, ABC, all those channels, because of their left wing socialist bias."

I just looked at him.

Oh no, but it continued. He loves Bill O'Reilly, FOX News. "Everyone says they're so right-wing, but really, they're kind of right of centre. And Bill O'Reilly, well, he's all over the place."

I smiled and nodded, not sure if the correct response was "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA you're joking, right?", "I voted NDP", or "Wow, suddenly I've realized what Tucker Carlson looks like without his bowtie."

He continues going on about the left-wing socialist media - no, seriously, he couldn't refer to the media without using these words - and then subtly shifts his focus to celebrities that attempt to do humane things. "What's Bono really doing? Trying to get on magazine covers, I think. He's just a celebrity." Apparently sending money to Africa doesn't work, because a 20/20 reporter wrote that it doesn't. "Angelina Jolie might really care about kids in Africa, but Brad Pitt? I doubt it." My mind envisions Christy and Amber, now named Team Short, Brunette, And Kicking His Ass, well, kicking his ass.

I slowly move forward, and he backs out the door, finally leaving with some cheerful words goodbye.

I am so very amused.

Left-wing socialist media.

Right, and Bill O'Reilly's right-of-centre.

This man has obviously never heard of Michael Corin.

Current Mood: amused

So you say the national media is biased against you, Mr. Harper?

...ARE YOU A FUCKING MORON?

(That's a rhetorical question. I know he is.)

Let's just take up that old US mantra of "oh, the liberal media is out to get me!" It's worked amazingly well for them, after all.

Reality has a well-known liberal bias, doesn't it, Mr. Harper?

He's trying to have his staff "select" which reporters get to ask him questions. Mmm, shades of Jeff Gannon. Good for the reporters for walking out.

Harper has said that he will deal with the local media instead...

"Basically, what he's saying is the regional media can be trusted to be compliant. They will find that insulting," said Chris Dornan, head of Carleton University's journalism school.

"Just as the national press corps will find insulting the suggestion that they're all paid-up Liberal hacks.

"He's going out of his way to make enemies - and that's not a good sign."

CBC version of the story (not different, just more... ours): Harper says he's finished with Ottawa press corps

Current Mood: MORON!

See? Forums aren't only bad for MY health...

Busted.
Grounded.

PWNED!!!

(5th post in)

Current Mood: amused

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